At this time of year, many of us have decided to do it differently. It doesn’t really matter what “it” is, for the purposes of our discussion here today “it” could be anything.
But how many times have you decided this? How many times has the New Year come along and you’ve made a decision to do it differently, and even acted on that decision for a month or two, then fallen back into old ways of doing things?
Let’s make this year different. Let’s make this year the year that you implement the change you wish to see in your life, then you become that change.
In order to make a change in your life, I believe it is necessary to examine yourself. I believe it is necessary to know what makes you tick. What’s your story? What’s your history? What are your beliefs and the pattern of your thoughts? It is your beliefs and your thoughts that create your outer reality, and if you want to change your outer reality, you must first change your beliefs and the pattern of your thoughts.
There is one other piece of the puzzle: it is easier to change beliefs and thoughts if you know that you are safe and well cared for. You may think that this comes from a relationship. You may think that a feeling of safety and being cared for should come from a partner, lover, spouse or parent. Nothing could be further from the truth. Expecting our love ones to make us feel safe or happy or anthing else places an unfair burden on them, and turns us into victims. Instead, try placing the responsibility on feeling safe and well cared for in the loving arms of the one power that is capable of handling it: The One. Whatever you want to call it: Spirit, The Universe, The Force, Mother Nature, God. Wherever that Power lives, connect with it, feel it, know it. Then you shall know yourself, and then you shall be able to safely and effectively make a change in your life.
So the formula for successful change becomes this:
1. Examine yourself, particularly your beliefs and fears and how you react when you are in fear.
2. Connect with whatever-you-want-to-call-god, or deepen that connection, so that you feel safe.
3. Change your thoughts, the general pattern of them, and change your beliefs. Do this through a daily consistent regime of connection with that Power, and a conscious effort of replacing those thoughts that don’t serve you with thoughts that do.
4. Envision how you want the new you to be. Then affirm that. Use affirmations, visioning, meditation, whatever works for you.
Soon you will find that you have indeed, become the change you wished to see in yourself.
To help with the process, I have scheduled a Treasure Mapping Playshop at the end of this month. Join us on January 30, from 10 am to 4 pm at the Center for Spiritual Living in Carson City. Cost is $34 if you preregister, $39 if you register at the door. At this playshop we will go through the process of visioning the change we wish to see in ourselves, and then playfully make treasure maps to guide us through that change. Contact me for more information and to register.
In the meantime, prepare by examining yourself and deepening your connection with Power.