“A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people to make it worth the effort.” Herm Albright
“It is wonderful to contemplate the mental attitude of people who are not afraid to believe their prayers will be answered.” The Science of Mind, page 161, from the chapter called Faith
The previous two quotes are from the daily meditation for August 31, 2011, written in the Science of Mind magazine by Leta Miller. You can get an online version or subscribe to a printed version by going to http://www.scienceofmind.com/home. Each month the magazine, which has been published continuously since 1927, features a set of daily meditations written by a different author. Although I read other daily meditation books, I have found I return to the magazine over and over again for my daily “dose” of spirit!
Ok, now that all my attribution is done, I can get to the point of today’s post. The other day I was chatting with an acquaintance about a function we both participated in. Sales were down this year for both of us, and while she was complaining that she would never do this function again (she said the same thing last year), I was happy because of the networking opportunities I had by participating. And she said, “well of course you would make lemonade out of it.”
She was annoyed, and my thought was, “why would I think any other way?” Why wouldn’t I choose to look on the bright side? Why wouldn’t I want to grab hold of all the good I can? And why would I place attention on negativity?” It is a scientifically proven fact that what we place our attention on grows. Quantum physics has proven it, over and over again. (I just love it when science proves something that spiritually minded folks have been asserting for thousands of years!) I don’t set out to annoy people with my optimism, but it seems to happen. I don’t understand why someone would get annoyed at someone else’s optimism either, but have learned that is their choice, and has nothing to do with me.
So here’s some tips on how to uplift your life, and if you like to be annoying, that’s a side benefit that will just come naturally.
1. Think positive! Any time you have a negative thought, move to the other side of the thought. Do not park on the negativity. Your thoughts have power, and that negativity will manifest. The cool thing is that positive loving thoughts have more power than negative ones do.
2. If you must judge, judge in a positive way. This applies to people, institutions, the weather, everything. Did you know that judgement is simply your opinion of yourself turned inside out? Yep, whatever you are judging anything else for, look within, because that is the source of the judgment. If you spot it, you got it!’
3. If you find yourself unable to move from negativity to positive thinking, and unable to stop judging, and you really want to live life differently, get some help. Something within you is calling, something within you wants to manifest good in your life, something within is saying that it is time to think and be and do in new ways. However, most of us need assistance when we want to learn a new way of being. A coach is good for holding the light and showing you where to dig, and they can nudge you when you falter. It is not always easy to live in a way that is different from the way you’ve done it your entire life, which is why I put that little caveat in there about really wanting to change, because there will be parts of you that balk. It’s good to have the supportive wisdom of someone who is trained to guide through the path of change.
4. Listen to uplifting music. I particularly like disco for this! It prompts movement, and movement in our bodies create yummy things called endorphins, which are a natural attitude booster. Any kind of movement will do actually. If dancing to disco doesn’t float your boat, go outside and take a walk, or ride a bike, or go to a gym, or dig in your garden, or even clean house!
5. Help someone else. Every religion and spiritual tradition teaches this. It is the wisdom of the ages, helping others. If you do nothing else, do this. I know a lady who bakes cookies at Christmas for all the fire stations in town. Another fosters dogs until they are ready for adoption. I know others who volunteer their time at various charitable organizations. I provide free coaching on a regular basis and donate my time and services to my local Center for Spiritual Living. Attorneys do some pro bono work. Doctors provide free medical services. Find your niche, and fill it.
6. And last but not least, remember that happiness is a choice. Abraham Lincoln was right when he said that we are as happy as we make up our minds to be. Ultimately, it is your choice. No one is going to stop you if you want to sit in misery, but choose happiness and you will find an entire village of people supporting you and doing what they can to help you achieve your goal.