Sometimes living inside one’s own head is akin to walking in a dangerous neighborhood. Alone. In the dark.
It’s difficult sometimes to look on the bright side, make a gratitude list, do the next indicated right thing, meditate, connect with Spirit, journal about positive stuff, help another, or even get out of bed when life just doesn’t seem to be cooperating.
And I don’t know about you, but if life isn’t cooperating, I venture even deeper into that dangerous neighborhood, comparing my insides to other people’s outsides and going to that old familiar place of low self esteem, and even wallowing in self pity: laying in bed in a fetal position, hiding under the covers, crying my eyes out.
Ever been there?
Sometimes even chocolate doesn’t help.
I admit that sometimes it is necessary to blow off a bit of steam and have a pity party. Someone once told me that it helped to give herself a specific period of time to do the pity party thing. She gave herself an hour, or maybe a day, no more, and then moved on. So if you are in a low point, allow that pity party….for a little while. Then move on.
While it may seem like too much work to make a gratitude list and actually FEEL the gratitude for the things on the list, I can tell you that this tool is particularly valuable during low times. While wallowing in self pity may sometimes seem like comfortable place to be, it is true what Jerry and Esther Hicks say about vibration: we set up that low vibration and then attract more of that into our lives. It is critical to go to a place of gratitude during those times when life seems bleak.
It is also extremely important to not walk the journey alone. Reach out, pick up the phone, call people, visit, do social stuff. Invite someone over for dinner, or cook a casserole for someone who isn’t feeling well physically. Bake cookies for the local firehouse.
Another helpful tool is to take action. One of my favorite sayings is “responsible acts build self esteem.” If you are wallowing in self pity, the best way to feel better about yourself is to do something positive and productive. And don’t beat yourself up because it isn’t enough.
And above all, here’s what I know about life and Spirit and manifestation: We only receive that which we are capable of receiving. Life, Spirit and things move through us, as us. If we want more or better or whatever, we first need to BE that which we want. When we BE, then Spirit can move in and through and as us. Then it seems as if magically things begin to turn around. It really isn’t magic though, it is simply ancient spiritual laws in action.
So if things aren’t going so well, apply those spiritual laws and then watch them work to co-create with you wonder and beauty and majesty and great things in your life.